tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post5248337593152186903..comments2023-11-18T11:24:52.834-08:00Comments on Tales from the Den of Chaos: Ouch, got me right on the nerveMother of Chaoshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12176092618150502244noreply@blogger.comBlogger25125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-34036262720027963982009-03-02T06:38:00.000-08:002009-03-02T06:38:00.000-08:00I had no need for a harness until I had my third, ...I had no need for a harness until I had my third, who astonished us all by being a boy after our two girls. Yes, he loved to run straight away and since he was speech delayed, he couldn't tell anyone where mommy was. So I used a harness when we were in busy public places. I've got pictures of him in it at the zoo...but in our area, it must be a more accepted thing because I got no remarks. In JanTinkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03965598815674657661noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-90008866256417359362009-02-22T08:06:00.000-08:002009-02-22T08:06:00.000-08:00AMEN!!!!!!! Oh my goodness, I cannot express how ...AMEN!!!!!!! Oh my goodness, I cannot express how much I agree with you hon. I had to use a harness on my now six year old when he was 2 til 4 because he RAN. He ran right into a pond in a park, with me hauling butt right behind him losing my shoes along the way, screaming for someone to "Please grab him before he gets to the water!!!!" Did anyone (there were dozens of people there) do so? Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-21633268552073910942009-02-21T11:49:00.000-08:002009-02-21T11:49:00.000-08:00When my daughter was 11 months old, her doctor ins...When my daughter was 11 months old, her doctor insisted we put her into a harness. She had a nasty habit of just walking away without looking back.<BR/><BR/>We looked all over the place, but in 1991 there were only nasty looking harness things for kids. <BR/><BR/>On the other hand, she's 18 now, and safe and sound, so I guess it was worth it. And she doesn't even remember the harness, so it Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-44241727098242564932009-02-19T16:44:00.000-08:002009-02-19T16:44:00.000-08:00I've never understood the bad rap harnesses get. ...I've never understood the bad rap harnesses get. I'll take dirty looks over the possibility of losing my child any day.<BR/><BR/>Maybe i'll market a harness that reads: <I>IT'S NOT A LEASH; IT'S AN ABDUCTION THWARTER. NOW GO JUDGE SOMEONE ELSE.</I>Hollishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12790372607515783586noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-43598851265562617482009-02-19T10:20:00.000-08:002009-02-19T10:20:00.000-08:00My child was the most precious thing in my life - ...My child was the most precious thing in my life - no way was I going to run the risk of his darting off. I used a harness for as long as I needed it (*^(*&%(*%& other people's opinion. <BR/><BR/>Should anyone be officious enough to give you those comments or looks just remember us - we'll back you up sister!<BR/><BR/>P.S.: Love Jeanne's comment. <BR/>CelesteAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-57803782934335154682009-02-19T00:53:00.000-08:002009-02-19T00:53:00.000-08:00Even supposedly "normal" children have trouble und...Even supposedly "normal" children have trouble understanding the command "do not wander off". I have vivid memories of the tussles we had with my then 5-year-old nephew on his one and only trip to Europe. He could not register that people in other countries did not speak English and, if he got lost, he couldn't ask for help. We made him wear a leash.<BR/><BR/>"Other people" are idiots to judgePipneyJanehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18361733342528469517noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-55538039960141511612009-02-18T20:51:00.000-08:002009-02-18T20:51:00.000-08:00I hear you. It's easy to judge someone else, and ...I hear you. It's easy to judge someone else, and far harder to try to understand them. Thanks for this post.Science PhD Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03927647627619995276noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-28313649604556565762009-02-18T11:00:00.000-08:002009-02-18T11:00:00.000-08:00You have to go with what you know works for you an...You have to go with what you know works for you and yours. <BR/><BR/>DH and I both desperately needed glasses, and began wearing them at about 3 years of age. Would you believe people accosted both of our mothers, saying "How can you be so cruel to put glasses on that child?"Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-21059082689173968562009-02-18T10:25:00.000-08:002009-02-18T10:25:00.000-08:00pfft.there were 6 months when my little 1 year old...<I> pfft.</I><BR/><BR/>there were 6 months when my little 1 year old boy screamed ear-splitting screams and slapped me in the face whenever frustrated -- easy to handle at home, much harder in line at the grocery store. i ignored the comments (tho they still sting, amazingly) and held him upside-down face out (so he couldn't kick ;-) with my left arm, and calmly pushed my cart and paid with my knitinsagehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04750386916580698855noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-29276768793541878162009-02-18T06:49:00.000-08:002009-02-18T06:49:00.000-08:00People don't understand until they do it themselve...People don't understand until they do it themselves.<BR/><BR/>My mom used two zip/snap harnesses at a time on my brothers, that way they could unzip/unsnap one and still be safe (of course the second one was zipped/snapped in the back where it was hard to reach). The boys thought they were so smart to undo the harness and couldn't figure out why they were still tethered. They are now in their 40Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-70958172773935155002009-02-18T06:32:00.000-08:002009-02-18T06:32:00.000-08:00My son liked to play hide and seek in department s...My son liked to play hide and seek in department stores as well. He's old enough to listen, now, but when I got the harness it was a relief to to have to haul him around by the arm any more. But I got my share of comments behind my back as well.Leoalhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05819621967258349176noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-2414824432666994442009-02-18T06:25:00.000-08:002009-02-18T06:25:00.000-08:00My Mom had a bad back and my brother was a handful...My Mom had a bad back and my brother was a handful. So she used a harness. GO FOR IT. You have to do what you need to do for your child and yourself. Although I bet its hard to hear the comments. I,however, was a perfect angel (HA) and didn't need the harness. HANG IN THERE BABY. You are doing the right thing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-47780122169990922442009-02-18T05:29:00.000-08:002009-02-18T05:29:00.000-08:00People can be absolute idiots sometimes. I guess ...People can be absolute idiots sometimes. I guess you just have to consider the source. We had a harness for ours when they were little, and it was a wonderful thing. Oldest son would march up to people and announce "My mommy got me this to help me be safe!" I'd just stand back and grin. You keep doing whatever you need to do to keep the Captain safe. You're a good mom, Tama.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-51339460010209408392009-02-17T22:38:00.000-08:002009-02-17T22:38:00.000-08:00Funny, I always thought the harnesses were a good ...Funny, I always thought the harnesses were a good idea. My thoughts in the mall tend towards "Look at that smart mom with contained children, and look at the loose child who just ran away from his parents to try to drown himself in a fountain."<BR/><BR/> My parents lost my brother at a packed county fair once. They only found him because he had a red balloon tied to his wrist. That was 30 years Trinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10982450446035552676noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-53338238092292080032009-02-17T22:33:00.000-08:002009-02-17T22:33:00.000-08:00Been there done that.If you have one you know what...Been there done that.<BR/>If you have one you know what "a busy child" really means. Or, "this one's a runner". Now combine.<BR/><BR/>Trips to mall to buy the traditional (read lazy way out) wedding present of the crystal photo frame meant placing my money in an accessible pocket, pick up child while firmly holding arms. indicate with pointed chin which frame I wanted, thrust hip forward so Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-39217542945858734182009-02-17T21:06:00.000-08:002009-02-17T21:06:00.000-08:00So I went over to MomLogic, and site explains its ...So I went over to MomLogic, and <BR/>site explains its moniker as referring to "[t]he logical (or, at times, logically illogical) thinking patterns all mothers seem to share."<BR/><BR/>I don't know any mothers who think in such judgmental terms. A few motherf***ers, perhaps, but not mothers.mama edgehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16434016248126809607noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-26469925794059672612009-02-17T18:59:00.000-08:002009-02-17T18:59:00.000-08:00Quote:I can’t play holy. I’ve done my fair share o...Quote:<BR/>I can’t play holy. I’ve done my fair share of it, too…ironically, most of it when I was younger and had no children of my own.<BR/><BR/>EXACTLY! I laugh (inwardly) at people (especially RELATIVES!) with no kids who know JUST how children should be raised.<BR/><BR/>I just keep saying to myself--"Someday, you'll be sooo embarrassed when you remember what you just said!"Barb Outside Bostonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02518936356413767515noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-52869695028036407232009-02-17T18:48:00.000-08:002009-02-17T18:48:00.000-08:00It's too bad that so many people choose to judge w...It's too bad that so many people choose to judge what they don't understand. Personally, I wished for a harness plenty of times when my kids were little. They can move so fast!<BR/><BR/>Vent all you want and then do what you think is best for your child, cause you are the mom.Galadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09246042661575565455noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-56409593663957279672009-02-17T17:57:00.000-08:002009-02-17T17:57:00.000-08:00Years ago, when I was a lot younger and a whole lo...Years ago, when I was a lot younger and a whole lot stupider, I too looked down on people who had child harnesses. I mean, obviously this woman thinks her child is a dog or something.<BR/><BR/>And then I watched a child take off and get stopped, and saved, because he was on a harness. And I realized that harnesses, and the comments they elicit, are a whole lot better than a funeral.<BR/><BR/>I Nancyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10289591626033574364noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-69254634165556184792009-02-17T16:36:00.000-08:002009-02-17T16:36:00.000-08:00Have to agree that harnesses are good for all kids...Have to agree that harnesses are good for all kids! Would you want to walk around all day long with your arm above your head, at the speed of someone whose legs are longer than you are tall?<BR/><BR/>I had a friend who was vehimently anti-harness. Then she had her second child. (that would be the one who loved strangers, wanted to see everything, and hated to hold hands) Suddenly it made muchUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06156802115016244162noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-47342408130322920302009-02-17T15:04:00.000-08:002009-02-17T15:04:00.000-08:00When my twins were old enough to be fast and silen...When my twins were old enough to be fast and silent, and young enough not to *listen* and *understand*, I did wish for some harnessess. The boys were only consistent in one thing - they always ran in separate directions. I never ended up getting one, but I certainly wouldn't deride a parent who uses a harness to keep their child safe!<BR/><BR/>Uh, good thing you already knew you were preaching Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-7568960506916623352009-02-17T13:16:00.000-08:002009-02-17T13:16:00.000-08:00So many people thought my son's harness was cool a...So many people thought my son's harness was cool and asked where we got it that we went into business making them. Foo on harness-sneerers!Lonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03749932988404110630noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-84183119921428167832009-02-17T13:15:00.000-08:002009-02-17T13:15:00.000-08:00My shining moment was in the mall when a stranger ...My shining moment was in the mall when a stranger made a very snotty comment about my using a leash on my child. I asked if she had a dog, "yes," did she use a leash on her dog, "yes," why did she use it? "why to keep her dog safe." To which I replied (sweetly, of course) "so you are telling me that your dog's safety is more important than my child's safety?" No response...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-34880313458079434822009-02-17T13:05:00.000-08:002009-02-17T13:05:00.000-08:00I work in the legal area, and some of the clients ...I work in the legal area, and some of the clients my firm has are *real* bad parents - in that they are having their children removed for neglect or abuse. It gives a whole new outlook on what "bad parenting" consists of.Louizhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05691100508790921779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-82952903070364169392009-02-17T12:47:00.000-08:002009-02-17T12:47:00.000-08:00Amen sister. Amen.I don't know when becoming a mot...Amen sister. Amen.<BR/><BR/>I don't know when becoming a mother became "signing up to be judged at all times by all people."<BR/><BR/>I sure as heck didn't sign that contract....natasha the exile on Mom Streethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02728674400366028221noreply@blogger.com