tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post113501397888096030..comments2023-11-18T11:24:52.834-08:00Comments on Tales from the Den of Chaos: More proof just in: I’m a rotten parentMother of Chaoshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12176092618150502244noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-1135380195435848092005-12-23T15:23:00.000-08:002005-12-23T15:23:00.000-08:00I think we're all basically in agreement here.I think we're all basically in agreement here.Myownigloohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06978255130705077376noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-1135365103240163532005-12-23T11:11:00.000-08:002005-12-23T11:11:00.000-08:00Yeah, I hate it when people say things like, "Ther...Yeah, I hate it when people say things like, "There's no reason to be all upset about it!" I try not to say that kind of stuff, either. It's so...demeaning.<BR/><BR/>It isn't what they are feeling I go after - it's the way they express it. Like, it's OK to be sad or angry that your milk is {gasp} Just Plain White instead of Funky Cool Orange. <BR/><BR/>It is NOT, however, OK to fling the cup of Mother of Chaoshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12176092618150502244noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-1135348438900253622005-12-23T06:33:00.000-08:002005-12-23T06:33:00.000-08:00I'm not a parent but it seems to me that there's a...I'm not a parent but it seems to me that there's a difference between invalidating feelings and teaching appropriate responses to feelings.<BR/><BR/>"I know you are upset but that's no reason to kick over the coffee table" is different from "You have no reason to be upset." <BR/><BR/>IMHO.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-1135305889657712522005-12-22T18:44:00.000-08:002005-12-22T18:44:00.000-08:00Our major job as parents - the very most important...Our major job as parents - the very most important one - is to teach our children to be good citizens of the world. That includes modulating our emotional outbursts as we mature. That is a whole lot different then having someone invalidate my adult feelings because he or she can't deal with my emotions. <BR/><BR/>I'm with your on this one Tama. Teaching reasonable behavior sometimes means 21st Century Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17387240994756123669noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9910550.post-1135193793259419802005-12-21T11:36:00.000-08:002005-12-21T11:36:00.000-08:00I understand that children neeed to be taught when...I understand that children neeed to be taught when to exhibit what behavior. There are ways of doing that without invalidating the child.<BR/><BR/>However, I also hate it when someone tells me there's no reason to be upset. I mean, if I'm upset then I'm upset and I have a reason!<BR/><BR/>I'm with the article on this one.Myownigloohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06978255130705077376noreply@blogger.com